First box is irrelevant (old bug) hence the comment about the bottom one on the same post. The only notification that shows is the bottom one.
As I said the problem about update notifications and the need to restart is something that I have already talked on a long thread about. J0rge said that I should try the KDE forums regarding this feature as they have much better way to provide a tool on this matter. I actually did that and I got a really good engagement from actual KDE devs!
Also the reason of my “heat” as you said is the stark contrast in the way a moderator is communicating with a user! Here is an example of the answer I got from one mod to another. I dont just come here requesting stuff willy nilly. Anyway I agree with you that this was not my best moment. It wont happen again. If I had the minimum of knowledge to develop that I really would. For now we have the popup for the month tho.